You started a relationship, you fell in love (or something similar) and, after a few months, you decided to share a roof. But living together is not always easy, rather never.
It is not the same to see yourself for a while on the weekend than to do it all year round, day and night. The friction makes the affection, but too much friction makes the wound.
Suddenly, there are things that start to bother you, especially phrases that your sweetheart tells you.
Don’t worry, you’re not alone. We have collected sincere confessions from people who have let off steam in various forums about what bothers them when they tell them their orange stockings. Surely some comment seems more than familiar.
1) “If you want me to do something, just tell me”
He hates me saying “if you want me to do something, tell me” because “basically, this phrase means that he never takes the initiative to plan or think about what he needs to do and that apparently I am in charge of everything around the house. He will do something if I ‘delegate’ it to him, but nothing will come of it, “she writes, quite annoyed.
If your partner is angry, it will be for something. The worst thing you can do is tell her “you are mad at all my love, she is silly”, followed by “leave it now”
“Why do I always have to be the one who thinks about what needs to be done or not? For example, cleaning, going to buy bread, or a gift for a party. Why can’t he put the If you see the laundry basket full? Or what if I never ask you, for example, to sweep the house and I don’t? You are 36 years old and you are not an idiot. I wonder if you are not capable of assuming some responsibility without me having to ask him. “
2) “I don’t clean because it’s my day off”
In the same forum we find this, which is gold: the better half of a user is not willing to do housework because “he is on his day off” (LOL). “I understand this. My partner had two days off after having been working for several days in a row. I was working. And he didn’t do anything from home because ‘he was on his day off’. That was his excuse. When do you think that Do I do the homework? We both work the same hours, so I don’t know why we shouldn’t divide the homework equally. I think I’m reasonable. “
3) “You get mad about everything, it was silly”
If your partner is angry, it will be for something. And if not, you shut up and assume it, or try to discuss it calmly. The worst thing you can do is tell him “you get mad at all my love, he is silly,” followed by the hated “leave it now” or “you make a mountain out of a grain of sand.” Each person is a world and has a scale of values, which for you is nonsense and you do not give it any importance, it does not have to be like that for another person, and vice versa. Such a response will only make the situation worse.
4) “You are bossy”
This is something that they usually say to them, and is closely related to point number one of this article. If most men are not predisposed to do chores, someone will have to tell them to do them. And there are the women. “Damn, you’re bossy”, and without the fuck, it’s the worst you can say to your partner.
5) “I don’t need help”
“I just don’t get it. Why is it so difficult to ask for help? It’s often easier to get a helping hand because you’ve asked for it than wasting time and energy doing it by yourself, or trying,” says one rather upset couple in the mentioned forum. And, from here, we agree with him.
6) “Now I’m busy, then we’ll talk”
This phrase is one of the worst, especially if it is repeated regularly. The burden is part of our lives and on many occasions we put so much effort into a task that we forget to take care of the rest. It is true that it is very difficult to carry out an action and at the same time pay attention to another person, but nothing happens to put them aside for five seconds, listen to what you want to say and respond calmly that is then spoken.
“I hate him saying ‘if you want me to do something, tell me’ because” basically, this phrase means that he never takes the initiative to plan or think “
7) “Have asked me”
In every couple there is the one who does everything on his own and who, by not putting it in common, runs into a problem. “He didn’t tell me he was going to buy bread and now we have two bars.” Let’s see, it is not a matter of holding a referendum on everything, or of doing nothing, but rather that there is a minimum of communication between both parties.
