A survey by the company Relationship Services , places money and financial security as the issues that couples discuss the most, followed by childcare, pressure at work, housework and sex . To avoid this, you can put into practice some tips to avoid fighting with your partner .
Willy Pasini, founder of the European Federation of Sexology and specialist in psychiatry at the universities of Geneva and Milan , offers you a decalogue of tips to avoid it:
- Sincere dialogue . Without hurting, humiliating or disrespecting.
- Active listening. Try to understand your partner’s point of view.
- Acknowledge your own mistakes. Do not avoid the blame.
- Apologize. Try to reconsider and learn to forgive after an argument .
- Do not put the problems together until they become a mountain and one day they all show up together. This is what experts call “the conspiracy of silence.”
- Make expectations realistic. That is to say, that the daily routine of the domestic is less appealing than you imagined.
- Clean slate. Do not resume confrontations , in fact, going back to past discussions is not only ineffective, but harmful.
- Solve the sentimental crisis. Once the crisis is resolved, the couple grows stronger.
- Leave work at the office . The most convenient thing is to alleviate the spirits of the worries with the partner, having a support from it, but try to avoid that the negative monopolizes the conversations.
- Who is in charge? Prevent the weight of the relationship from falling on one person. What is shared is twice as good.
