Why do you think it has been said that women love money? Or that maintaining a woman is expensive? In many African tribes, it has been said that it takes money to be the husband of a wife. Have you found an answer to why most women love money and why some men think money is all they need to offer them?
Here’s why.
The truth is that most women want money from men, not because they can’t make money, but they have this dependent mentality, or that their lives would be incomplete without a man; but real women need more than your money and sex.
If as a man you think having enough money at your beck and call is all that makes you a man or the rounds of sex you can go, you goofed.
What can you offer a woman apart from sex and money?
If you think it’s all about sex and money, you’d be among those irresponsible men who make women pregnant but shy away from the commitment to help them nurture the pregnancy.
See, real women, mothers, or ladies don’t need your sex and money, they need SECURITY. A woman needs emotional, psychological, and spiritual security from you as a man.
If all you can offer are those things most men pride in, you’d certainly attract ladies that want those mundane things. To offer a woman something that is more than sex and money, take note of the following.
Security and love
First, can she be secured in your life without having to compete with other women for your space and attention? A woman who lacks emotional security from her man or husband can never be at her best.
A woman wants to know that she is the only queen in your kingdom. But when your frolick with every woman that crosses your path, she’ll withdraw inside her shell, and you’d never get the best from her.
Peace of Mind
Since men need a woman that would give them peace of mind without nagging or causing trouble, women equally need men that would give them emotional security. If your wife or woman can’t be emotionally secured around you, your sexual and financial ability is but trash.
Spiritually Sound
Second, a woman needs spiritual security.
Have you ever wondered why most women are victims in the hands of false prophets? The reason isn’t farfetched. It’s because the men in their lives aren’t spiritually sound.
You’re not a man because you have big manhood, or you’re sexually sound. A man must be a priest, one who can stand in the place of prayer to secure the lives of his family. But unfortunately, most men are lazy to pray. They often think they have to make money while their women are to be spiritual.
Some men can tell you all there is to know about a football club, the players, their matches, and leagues; but when it comes to spiritual things, they are ignorant.
Prayerful
See, if you make money and you’re a spiritual weakling, you’d likely fall into the hands of strange women, the likes of that recent young lady who killed a married man .
Be a man who can pray and cover his family spiritually. If money is all you need to be the head of the family, then you’re not different from an ATM. Apart from money, you need the head who is connected to God. A head that can’t see or hear spiritually, is that a man?
Money can attract all kinds of women to you, but you can only retain the right woman when you’re spiritually sound and connected to God.
Psychological security
Next, a woman needs a man that would give her psychological security
Most men think you need to read a large volume of books to understand women, but the truth is that women are not difficult or complex creatures. It would be difficult for you to understand the wrong woman, no matter how hard you try.
To give your wife or woman psychological security, you need to understand her. The Bible says this, dwell with her according to knowledge. Do you know how to do that?
Take time to study her, know her likes and dislikes, understand her high and low moments, they relate with her accordingly. Most women often complain that their husbands don’t understand them, and that’s a huge challenge in most marriages.
Leader
Lastly, apart from your money and sex, real women need men that can lead, not a ruler or a dictator. It takes marriage to be a husband, but it takes responsibility and commitment to be a leader.
Sex may give you a baby, but it takes a responsible man to father a child and lead the mother. There are lots of men who are irresponsible fathers, good-for-nothing husbands, and worthless men because they failed to stand in the office they were called to function in. Adam was able to provide for his wife, but he could not secure her from the tempter (devil) when he came around to deceive her.
Hear this, you don’t need to monitor your wife to secure her, that’s insecurity; you’d secure her emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically when you’re the head indeed. Apart from money and sex, what else do you have to offer that would make you a real man?
