You have probably already mentioned them, but there are expressions that you should avoid at all costs in your relationship.
Look at these phrases that could hurt and maybe you did not think you could ruin your bond by emotionally hurting your partner.
- “Sorry, but…”. Apologizing saying ‘but’ does not help build trust, credibility or intimacy.
- “Oh yeah, but if you …” Turning things around against your partner can end with a conversation. This is perceived as a threat to the connection they have formed.
- “You always …” This phrase opens the door for an endless discussion and will make your partner feel attacked.
- “You’re just like …” Pointing out the similarities between your partner and someone she does not want to be a dangerous way to criticize.
- “I do not know why I’m with you.” If you are so brave to express that, you should be so brave to leave at once.
- Screw rudeness
- “My ex would never have done this.” Requiring your current partner the same of your previous relationship is an immature attitude that can have serious consequences.
How to act
Discussing has its art and is not synonymous with fighting. The way to speak, precisely, will greatly influence the magnitude of the conflict.
Some of the values to avoid uncomfortable situations are empathy, respect, humility and generosity. These phrases can direct the discussion in a good direction:
- “You’re right in what you say.” This phrase is an opportunity to reach a midpoint with the couple.
- “I feel (like that) when you say that.” Starting with this prayer provides an opening to confess feelings and strengthen bonds of trust. In addition, it is a door to your partner to also express how it feels.
- “I’m sorry if I have bothered you. Tell me exactly what you feel and that way I can understand you better …” Forget about assuming or guessing what your partner’s feelings or emotions are. It allows the conversation to have spaces for understanding.
- “Why do not we try to support each other?” The honest approach invites the union of both parties to transform or culminate a discussion in a positive way. Gentle gestures and voice tones, physical contact and looks help in this kind of reconciliation.
Misunderstandings will always be part of an interpersonal relationship and of a couple in particular. To take them on the right track it is necessary to apply to a successful concept for all aspects of life: communication and, of course, avoid phrases that may hurt.
