In a relationship there are always and there will be happy moments and others not so much, that is what coexistence is about, but when those difficult moments come due to a disagreement with your partner, try to follow these tips to overcome those potholes in the best possible way and in the less time.
Arguments with a couple can lead to uncontrolled situations that often lead us to say and do things that we later regret, if you do not want that to happen, follow these tips so that the disputes with your partner end in the best possible way and without grudges.
Never start a conversation by berating, humiliating, or insulting. When we get angry we tend to say atrocities that we usually regret later on, but no matter how sorry we feel, we have already offended and hurt our partner, so before a “we have to talk” breathe, calm down and put your thoughts and feelings in order, everything will be easier, there is always a way to say things while keeping calm.
2. Don’t do it in public
Sometimes it may seem like a good idea (for some) to solve couple conflicts when they are in family gatherings or with friends, PLEASE NO, if what you need is advice from a different perspective, discuss it with someone you trust and ask for their opinion, but not in public, the only thing you will do is put your partner on the defensive and make him feel uncomfortable and offended.
3. Don’t forget empathy
I know, it is very difficult in those situations, but you must not forget that the person in front of you is your partner, with whom you share your life. Try to put yourself in their shoes and listen to their arguments.
4. Don’t hold grudges
If you don’t agree on something, say so, don’t keep it to yourself, I’m not telling you to complain about everything and all the time, say what makes you uncomfortable and what you think damages the relationship to find a solution.
5. Turn the page
When you decide to clean up a situation and you are convinced, do not stay with it, let go. If you have had the maturity and conviction to overcome or forgive, be consistent and start from scratch.
6. Don’t turn an argument into a show of superiority
If you think that because you scream louder or you think you have more arguments in your favor, you have the right to be right, you start out wrong, speak in a civilized way and do not forget for a moment that you are talking to the person you love. In a couple always 50 – 50 will be the exact ratio.
7. If you have made a mistake, accept it in a mature way
If you are aware that you have made a mistake, accept it, do not see it as a gesture of weakness but as a clear sign of maturity, do it sincerely and try to solve the damage.