If you’re about to start a long distance relationship, every friend, Every family member and pretty much anyone you’ve ever known will start giving in some precious and quite unwanted advice on how this is such a bad idea. They’ll bring up problems and examples of failed LDR’s- all from stories that they’ve heard and not actually experienced. What’s needed most at this moment is strong determination and faith in the love you share and if that’s not enough, then here is a list of the kind of people you’ll meet and the counter arguments that you can present to these pessimists:
1. The one who keeps telling you about the communication gap you’ll always have:
In this time and age, where even a person who’s living on the opposite end of the earth is just a click away, it seems quite unreasonable to assume that people in a long distance relationship will have problems communicating with each other. Facebook, Skype, Whatsapp, Facetime and countless other mobile and computer applications have made this the perfect time to actually diversify our options and consider being with the people who make us truly happy, whether they live next door or thousands of miles away.
2. The one who says you won’t ever really get to know the other person:
People have this conception that if you’re not meeting each other every single day, if every day doesn’t start and end with the person you’re seeing, then you won’t get to know your partner as well as you should. The reality is completely opposite. The long distance and the ways you have of overcoming it actually bring two people even closer together. When the only medium of communication is a call or a message, then you actually reflect about what you’re going to say, and you spend more time talking and discussing life rather than indulging in the passion that accompanies every new relationship.
3. The one who’s worried you won’t be a part of your partner’s everyday life:
Yes, it’s true! You won’t be seeing them every day or visit their favorite hangout places with them or get to interact with their friends who you keep hearing so much about. But that is exactly the beauty of your relationship. You’ll grow into two individuals who are strong and confident enough to give their partners the space to live, to have separate friends, to party with the people they like, to just be their own person!
4. The one who keeps asking:
How will you ever trust them?. From day one, you’ll hear people questioning whether you can ever be sure of your partner’s faithfulness. They’ll tell you how hard it is to be loyal when the person you’re accountable to is not even there. Sure, it will take some time to build a sense of trust but what relationship doesn’t require that? And once you’ve passed that stage, once you’re completely sure about the fact that your partner who’s living thousands of miles away is only thinking of you, then your relationship is much stronger than anyone could have expected.
5. The one who feels that the passion will die down.
People tend to believe that if you’re not seeing your partner every other day, when you don’t get to hug them anytime you want, when there’s absolutely no physical contact, then there’s no way to keep the fire alive. This actually works the opposite way. In life, when you get anything in excess whether it’s a song you’ve listened to a thousand times over or the touch of your partner, you start to lose interest after a while. But when you’re in an LDR, every time you meet feels like the start of something new and nothing can beat the excitement and passion you feel when you see your partner after a long time.
6. The one who warns you that it’s going to be an expensive deal.
You’re warned about how much your visits are going to cost you and how much you’ll have to save just to meet your partner once. The truth is, all relationships are expensive and if you’re seeing each other every day, chances are you’re probably spending just as much or maybe even more than what one visit will cost a person in an LDR.
7. The one who tells you that It’ll just end, it’s inevitable.
And the final thing that you’ll come across time and again is some jerk who’ll keep on exclaiming that your relationship is bound to end just because it’s a long distance relationship.
They usually won’t have anything to back up their argument with, just a pre-conceived notion that all long distance relationships are doomed. As a matter of fact, you don’t even need to defend your relationship in front of people like these because if they have the audacity to say things like that, then they probably have no regard for your feelings and are just a waste of your time.
