Do not be afraid of the new terminology of the relationship that comes to us in English because here we are to translate what is needed. Do you remember ghosting? Based on the word ‘ghost’, it was (and is) a technique to break that is to disappear from your life without leaving a trace, let alone an explanation.
A somewhat cruel break that adopts a new modality in breadcrumbing. And, believe us, you are interested in knowing what breadcrumbing is because more and more people practice it.
What is breadcrumbing
‘Breadcrumb’ in English refers to bread crumbs. Yes, we are going to talk about the crumbs that some individuals give us so that we can continue to wait. Waiting for that? The breadcrumbing is practiced mostly on the Internet, in those relationships that are established via social networks, although face-to-face encounters are not ruled out. But most of the communication is done via new technologies.
Imagine: you had a great first date with a boy and it is normal that you send a message after that appointment to test the terrain. Everything is fine, whatsapp good night, how are you doing or how good we had it. Suddenly one day leaves you in sight. Since you do not know him much, you give him up for lost without any drama. But one good day, it’s usually a couple of weeks after you’ve ignored your last message, it gives a like to your last post on Facebook, to your last Instagram photo and it might make an ingenious comment.
Is it or is it not? Is there anyone there? And the talk starts again until it disappears again for no reason. If you propose to remain the answer it is never to ‘no’, but ‘yes, we are already talking’. But after several attempts you will realize that this appointment is never going to materialize. They can spend months and years in this dynamic of I answer you, I disappear, I return so that you pay attention to me and I disappear again. Do you know what we are talking about? The breadcrumbing is not a new issue, it is the dog of the gardener of all the life.
The risk of suffering breadcrumbing in love
Logically breadcrumbing does not occur in stable relationships
There is no compromise of any kind, but that does not mean that there should not be some respect. And with breadcrumbing there is not. They make you think they are there, then they disappear. The thing about having you sitting on the bench as a possible option is the least of it.
What’s more is that this kind of ambiguous and confusing attitude makes you go crazy thinking about the reasons for their erratic behavior. Are you doing something wrong? Did you say something inappropriate? The feeling of guilt is mixed with confusion and you will have more of a dislike of anxiety if you continue in this breadcrumbing dynamic. Do not let that happen.
Little matter their motives, if a person is narcissistic, self-centered, with problems of self-esteem or lack of affection because he is playing with you and in an honest way. Arm yourself with courage and do not answer her last message, but do not do it with the intention of returning to you on your knees to apologize, do so with the intention of never having any contact with that person because it is not worth it.
