Most people fear the discussions that are generated in a relationship. It is an unfounded fear, since a civilized discussion or a timely discussion can stop any couple problems that are about to appear. We tell you why couples who argue daily are happier, although it all depends on the type of discussion.
Why discussing on a daily basis makes you happier as a couple
It’s not about shouting, insulting or scolding. Nor is it a question of being angry in a couple, but of discussing in a healthy way to reach an agreement. Couples who argue every day, such as couples who talk every night or couples who have sex every day, are the happiest. It is a matter of establishing healthy routines and arguing is one of them.
Perhaps we should start by clarifying that a couple discussion is not a fight. The arguments of couples have their benefits if they are done in the right way, in a civilized way and with the same objective that is no other than knowing what the other thinks, approaching positions and reaching an agreement. It would be better if we changed the term ‘discussion’ to the term ‘debate’.
A constructive discussion is beneficial as a couple because it implies that you both have different criteria. You have not renounced independence for being in couple, nor your own ideas nor your particular points of view. If your different postures do not give rise to incompatibilities, that variety can only enrich you as a couple and as a person.
A couple does not have to agree on everything. And if it is, we suspect that one of the two has given up its values, its ideas, its way of being by the other, which inevitably leads us to a toxic relationship of dependence. Therefore, welcome are those discussions of couple that maintain our individuality and our criterion.
