And how did you think it was a relationship? We have all imagined ourselves with a kind of prince blue even if it does not necessarily correspond to that of the stories or the movies.
We all have our ideal man visualized in our mind. And nothing, that does not appear. Someone approaches him for a short period of time, but then disappears. Hence, we ask ourselves if there is a perfect match or we have to look for something different.
Taking into account that nobody is perfect, a couple cannot be either. Maybe it would be better to talk about an ideal and not perfect couple.
Although “the ideal” is also a misleading term that makes more reference to our expectations, to our fantasies, to our idealizations than to reality.
So either we are in a dead end or we are one step away from becoming skeptics of love. But let’s not despair.
That there is still hope. Couples are not perfect, nor are they ideal. Couples have to be real and, above all, healthy.
In this way, the couple relationship that we are seeking to adapt to a series of realistic expectations and that is possible. There is no perfect couple and there is no ideal partner, but there is a good couple.
A good couple argues, has misunderstandings, gets mad sometimes. But at all times they maintain a clear intention to resolve the disagreements and to bring closer positions.
Why? Because there is love, because there is commitment, because there is respect and because there is honesty. If we see it this way it does not seem so hard to find that perfect match, right?
How to know if you have the perfect partner
So, if your boyfriend does not look anything like your movie, let’s say James Franco or Ryan Gosling, if sometimes you do not understand him and he does not understand you or if sometimes you think what I have done to deserve this, do you want Say you’re not with the perfect partner?
Not necessarily. There are some signs that tell you that you have the ideal man by your side, that it will not be perfect, but that is perfect for you.
1 You feel comfortable and relaxed with him.
2 There is trust within the relationship.
3 You can be yourself.
4 You can count on him.
5 You laugh a lot with him.
6 The relationship does not generate anxiety.
7 You are not afraid of the future with him.
8 You feel that there is love between you.
9 There is respect between the two.
10 I have bet on you and you have bet on him.
If your relationship meets these characteristics, stop thinking about it because you have already found the perfect match. Now you just have to worry about keeping that love.
