Days after former Papa Shirandula actor Joy Kawira shared on what happened before their break up, her ex husband Ephantus Safari has come out to give a different story.
According to earlier allegations by Joy, she blamed her hubby over various marriage issues, which likely prompted her to shape out of the union.
Here is what Safari had to say.
Marriage is sacred and no one gets into it with a second thought.On 22nd November 2014 Isaid Yes I do to the love of my life in a colorful wedding attended by friends and family. I met my wife in a function, we had given her an opportunity to MC. We courted less than a year and boom, ’The wedding’.
Marriage is an instituition, you work it out. No one is perfect and both parties have a role to play. I did not marry an actress neither did she marry a businessman, and if I did marry an actress,you have the answer why she is running from one media house to another. She married Ephantus, she saw my giftings and that is why she encouraged & introduced me to her bishop friends in Meru for ordination as a pastor in 2017.
My wife had a strong attachment with her mother noting that she was the bread winner and the mother lived in her house. The bible says both shall leave their parents and they shall come together. On getting married she wasnt ready to move out without the mother. From where i grew up, mother in laws do not live with their children in the same house of which there was a period i allowed it but the outcome wasnt good(story for another day).
The first two years were really difficult for both of us having to counter pressures from family and friends. We tried to conceive with no results. I encouraged my wife we sought the help of a doctor. I walked with her throughout the treatment and finally God came through. She conceived and sadly again, it was a blighted ovum. We had to terminate.
We prayed and trusted God as we were going on with treatment. God rewarded us with triplets., I accompanied my wife in all her clinics and at 32nd week, we were informed one baby had succumbed. It was tragic for us but thank God for doctors who saved my twins.
I kept my family in the very best a man can keep a woman. I provided for my family to a point of supporting extended family as well but one evening from work I found an empty home. I loved Joy with all my heart. I have engraved my kids initials on my arm. I inflicted pain to heal the pain of missing my lovely children. I have requested for co parenting she has declined.
I tried to reach out , sent friends ,called her but my calls went unanswered. The past two years until the date she started doing rounds on social media, I did not know why my family left.
I am psychologically tortured, as she has kept our kids, that I saw to growth almst 5 times a day at Mp Shah hospital,when she was in the house recovering. Rev Lilian Young, a family confidant can attest to this.
Her accusations have damaged my reputation. My businesses are failling. Its hurting, she is getting all this encouragements from somebody i called ‘mum’; the ‘mum’ who was against me marrying her from the day I introduced her.
In my pre-marital counselling I learned that there are no perfect marriages. Mine wasnt to be perfect and if yours is, then we give glory back to God. Challenges are there some I cant write, there are so personal that if I do rounds mentioning it might affect even our growing children.
As alleged by my wife , we were not compatible. And if that is the case, kindly lets move on. Clout chasing with me may not help much instead, our kids will one day question you, why you deprived them the love and support of their father.
I wish you well and all the grace to overcome every obstacle
