Someone Asked The Question,
“How do I know if I’m with the right man?” I thought it was a great question to ask. As I proceed to answer, I want to first say that finding Mr. Right should not be confused with finding Mr. Perfect.
There is no perfect person. In fact, I’ve always been told that even if he or she was perfect they would become tainted by our imperfections. So, strive to be with someone who although flawed they are still perfectly right for you.
1 – Make sure you’ve prayed about about him. It’s awesome that you have met this great guy with a wonderful sense of humor, but don’t neglect prayer. Through prayer, God has a way of giving us the wisdom we need to weed out all the Mr. Wrongs. (James 1:5-6)
2 – Make sure you have peace about him. One of the worse kind of decisions to make is the kind you have no peace about. If you are confused and your heart is troubled about saying yes, don’t say it. Mr. Right should leave you with peace – not a pseudo feeling that you only feel when you are in his presence.
3 – Make sure he meets God’s standards first. As a believer, it’s not enough that he attends church on a regular bases or can quote a number of scripture passages. Jesus said that a tree is known by the fruit it bears (Luke 6:44). God’s standards always starts with Him as the foundation. With that love relationship intact, loving you will be easy.
4 – Make sure he meets your standards (core values). This can only be accomplished by first knowing you. Who are you? What means the most to you in life? What are you convictions? What are you passionate about? What key morals you live by? All of these questions are necessary because if you don’t know the answers, it’s going to be rather difficult to tell if he’s meeting them. (Core Values)
5 – Make sure you’re going in the same direction (vision/purpose). Knowing who you are is one thing, but knowing where you’re going is another. Get clarity on what you’ve been called to do in life. If God is going to send Mr. Right your way, you can be assured that somehow your purposes in life will mesh together.
One of the worst things to do is to end up married to someone who doesn’t encourage, support or find interest in the things that mean the most to you. I believe these few things should get you well on your way to knowing Mr. Right. If nothing else, it should definitely eliminate all the Mr. Wrongs.
