30 Rules For Men Who Want To Stay Long In Marriage

Here are some of the key rules of all married men who want to have long married

1. KNOW YOUR POSITION – Genesis 2,
   In Genesis God established the family. God is a God of order and He set the organization of the family in creation.
   Any organization must have the roles of its members clearly defined to be able to function and support the organization. God gave the men the responsibility to be the head of the family in providing spiritual covering, provision and leadership.
   When Adam and Eve sinned, God first looked for the leader of the family who was Adam. When God spoke to Sarah she laughed and God went to Abraham and asked him why his wife had laughed.
2. LOVE YOUR WIFE – Ephesians 5:33
   Husbands are instructed to love their wives. Love means unmerited favor. This strongly addresses man’s responsibility. The husband is to show favor to his wife and shoulder his responsibility whether his wife submits to him or not.
   His favor towards her comes from His God given responsibility and is not based on her being desiring of that love. In other words the man’s responsibility is not based on circumstances, but upon God’s orders to him.
3. UNDERSTAND THAT YOUR WIFE IS WEAKER THAN YOU AND TREAT HER HER AS A GIFT – 1 Peter 3:7
   Married men, in the same way, live with your wives with a clear recognition of the fact that they are weaker than you. Yet, since you are heirs with them of God’s free gift of Life, treat them with honour; so that your prayers may not be hindered.
4. DON’T EVER BEAT YOUR WIFE FOR ANY REASON. Prov. 19:11, Prov. 20:3. A woman is not a punching bag and remember they are weaker than you. A prudent man will not only abstain from causing quarrel but will hold himself aloof from all contention and solve any disputes in a peaceful way.
   I know women can be annoying at times but raising your hand on her is not a solution. As proverbs 19:11 says, “Experience makes you more patient, and you are most patient when you ignore insults”.
5. Don’t ever forget that your wife is your greatest asset. Prov. 12:4, Prov 18:22, A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband. Women are like a gardern, when you nurture her she can become your greatest assert and it is your responsibility to bring out that assert in her.
6. Don’t ever forget to check the level of peace of your wife. Prov. 27:17
7. DON’T ASSOCIATE WITH MEN THAT LACK CREDIBILITY AND GENERATIONAL MINDSET. Prov.13:20 Some friends can ruin your marriage and influence you in a wrong way so be friends with those who are wise, and you will become wise. Choose fools to be your friends, and you will have trouble.
8. Don’t ever hurt your wife no matter the level of insults passed on you. Col. 3:19, 1Pet. 2:19-20 This is what you were chosen to do. You are to love her as how Christ loved the church. Christ gave you an example to follow. He suffered for you. So you should do the same and correct your wife in love.
9. Don’t ever wave off the ideas, advice or suggestions of your wife because of your selfish interest. Pro. 1:5, Prov 19:20
10. Never treat your wife as a servant. Eph. 5:29
11. Never make your wife a negative case study before friends and family. Prov. 5:18, Prov. 21:23
12. Never doubt your wife no matter what you know about her past. 1Cor. 13:5.
13. Don’t deny your wife of sex. 1Cor. 7:4-5.
14. Don’t be careless about the welfare of your home. 1Tim. 5:8
15. Don’t compare your wife with anyone. 2Cor. 10:12
16. Never cheat on your wife no matter the condition. Prov. 6:32, Prov. 5:20
17. Never cut short the love you showed to your wife, rather, water it, and nurture it for effective continuous growing. Eph. 5:28-29
18. Never disregard the effort of your wife, rather appreciate her more and more. Prov. 31:28b
19. Never discuss the weak points of your wife at public opinion polls. Prov. 5:17
20. Don’t call your wife unpleasant names such as prostitute, witch, fruitless entity, harlot, useless wife, bastard, rather call her blessed, precious, capable, beautiful and virtuous woman. Col. 4:6, Prov. 31:28-29
21. NEVER EVER PLACE YOUR FRIENDS, FAMILY OR WORK ABOVE YOUR WIFE.
22. Don’t be self centered. Eph. 5:28, Phil. 2:3-4
23. Don’t ever cook up plans against your wife because of your lustful desires.
24. Never set up a family without having a family vision. Prov. 29:18, Hab. 2:2-3
25. Never make your wife feel inferior and uneducated before your friends, family, anyone or even you the husband.
26. Never compare your wife’s attitude with your one time girlfriend’s attitude. 2Cor.10:12
27. Don’t be lazy to cater for your wife and family. 1Tim. 5:8
28. Never allow money to be the bond of love in your marriage. 1Tim. 6:10
29. Never allow your parents or family members to dictate the affairs of your home, remember, ‘’therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife………’’. Gen. 2:23-24.
30. Don’t ever let your children come between you and your wife. You married your wife not your children, remember they have their life to live and when married and gone, only your wife will still be with you, to cook for you, comfort you, refresh your body, soul and spirit in the bedroom. Matt. 19:6
31. Never hide any phone calls, text messages, or password to mailbox from your wife. Transparency is the ultimate key to continuous trust and confidence in marriage. Rom. 12:9-10
32. Never owe your wife anything, always give her the very best; best in love, best care, most precious things and that which belongs to her. Rom.13:8
33. Never show a heart of ungratefulness to God and your precious wife, always and always be ever grateful for their presence in your life. Prov. 31:28b