Most couples relate trust with sexual fidelity but there is much more than that.
Research on happiness in the couple reveals that there are 5 specific types of trust presented in every healthy and happy relationship.
1. Confidence that you will be sexually faithful
Currently there are many liberal couples who accept that their partner is sleeping with other people. But the fact is that almost all of us want our partner to sleep with only one person: us.
An infidelity can damage the relationship to the point of breaking it. Also, when there is a third person in between that shows that there is something in the couple that does not work well. A psychologist can help you find the solution, a part-time lover cannot.
2. Trust that you will not control each other
Control is a sign of distrust. Even telling him how to fold his clothes is distrust! Show that you do not trust that I will do well.
For a person there is nothing more harmful than your partner distrusting their way of doing things. Do not be possessive with your partner. Far from bringing it closer, you will be moving further away from you. Let him be the way he is: with his manners, his manias, his rituals Or did he not also fall in love with him?
3. Trust that you love each other for what you are and not
for what you have
Loving for convenience is called loving for ulterior motives. That is, for reasons that go beyond love: money, family, appearance, work.
You need to know that your partner loves you for what you are, and not for what you have. He also needs to know. Loving his ways, his manias, even his faults is much more valuable to him than any gift you can give him.
4. Trust that you will not leave during difficult times
Being well when things are going well is easy. But conflicts, arguments and disagreements are inevitable in a relationship. It is normal that you discuss and have different points of view, you are 2 different people!
But never threaten that you will leave or you will separate from him. No kidding. That wears a lot to the couple and especially to who receives it. You may have bad stages, but that does not mean that you break up.
5. Confidence that your relationship is a priority
Love is like a plant: if you do not water it every day it dies. You need to feed on small things every day.
The promises are very good but the day is the important thing. The confidence of knowing that the two of you fight for your love every day does not give you a promise. They give you the facts, the tests, the daily affection, the minimum details but they mean a lot.
And in the end the happiness in your partner will not depend on one or many things. It will depend on you. It’s going to depend on him. It will depend on you as a couple. There is a Person next to you. Just love her, respect her and let her be.
“To love is to find in the happiness of another your own happiness”. Gottfried Wilhelm Leibniz
