You have been praying for a job, and finally God hears your prayers, however you immediately discover that your boss is so toxic
Should you quit immediately ?
What if for some reason you can’t quit? We all know that it’s not always easy to just wake up and quit your job and find another one tomorrow
How do you cope as you look for a way forward? Here are tips:-
1.Quit competing/fighting with him/her
Your boss is your boss! Sorry, I know this is the last thing you want to hear about somebody who takes you through hell, but the bitter truth is, for the time being, they are your boss regardless of what you feel about them. Respect them and give them their space. It is their time. Even the Holy Book tells us to respect those in authority and doesn’t say if they are good. It says respect them. Do it.
2.Excel in your work –
The only thing your boss can like or dislike about you that holds any water at the end of day is your work. Your good work and performance will stand up for you, speak for you and fight for you if need be. It is the only weapon that you can use to defend yourself against somebody who fights you for personal reasons and succeed. Shine so much in your work that you make them look ridiculous fighting you.
3.Seal the loopholes –
The last thing you want to do with somebody who wants to bring you down is keep giving them ground to do so. This is the time you want to be in your best behaviour. Don’t do anything that they can use against you. Keep time, do your work, obey the rules etc Wisdom dictates that if someone is “looking for you”, don’t sleep on their path.
4.Understand them-
Sometimes we think understanding other people is for their good but in actual fact it is for our good. Some of these people who are our bosses have issues from here to the sky and back. Some have personality disorders, family issues, financial issues, psychological issues, insecurity, some are haunted by their past, some are incompetent and want to cover this up or some are just damn difficult. Understanding what is bothering them makes it easier for you to cope because you know that you are not the problem, they are.
5.Be honest with yourself –
Can we talk? Are our bosses always wrong? Could it be sometimes they have a point only that may be they don’t put it across in the best way? When your boss gets nasty with you, call yourself for a small meeting and analyze their sentiments. Sometimes it could be you were wrong. They could be right! (this does not at all justify mistreating people)They could give you feedback that could shape and mould you to greatness. Before you toss that resignation, think about it. If you move to another job or business with character, attitude or discipline issues, believe you me, you will have the same problem, because you are the problem! Deal with the problem first.
6.Seek help –
We have have heard and seen cases of boss staff relations get nasty to extremes of suicide, depression or even ladies losing their babies through miscarriage owing to stress.
Don’t let it get here. Your job may be your livelihood but it’s not your life! Life and health are too precious. Don’t exchange them for anything. If you feel things are getting out of hand, seek relevant help.
7.Let God fight your battles –
If you have ever been pushed to a corner by someone more powerful than you, then you know you that some battles can only be worn on your knees. Don’t fight for yourself. let the mighty man of war do it. He who does what no man can do and opens doors no man can close. Pray, pray and pray again. God protects his own. As He fights for you, remain faithful, remain humble and remain obedient and submissive and watch God lay a table of honour for you right before their eyes.
