The issue of whether it is possible to have a healthy relationship with an ex has arisen, as well as the conditions that indicate that you are ready for a healthy commitment without having to meet other people’s expectations.
The truth is that any relationship can be considered healthy if these conditions are met.
Security
When both parties feel the relationship as a refuge and not a battlefield, then they are on the right track. A healthy relationship should not generate more doubts and insecurities, it should not make you believe that you must change your essence to like more nor should it lean only to one side or make you feel guilty for mistakes. Both must know that they are the support of the other and that they will be present through thick and thin, emotionally and even financially.
There is no one size fits all formula for creating security in a relationship. It is something that must be constantly negotiated in pairs.
Honesty
Sincerity is one of the foundations of any healthy relationship. This includes refraining from infidelity or cheating that affects what they have built or may build.
Avoiding confrontations or pretending that things are “fine” when they are not, are also forms of dishonesty that we often overlook. Communication will always be the key to finding that balance.
Mutual respect
Respect is another of the most important characteristics of a healthy relationship. They may not agree on everything but it is necessary to attend to the feelings and needs of the other equally, always listen and seek a good common. In long-lasting, healthy relationships, both parties value each other and watch out for their words, actions, and behaviors.
Empathy
Another key quality of a healthy relationship is empathy. This refers to trying to understand how the other is feeling in order to find solutions or maintain balance for the good of both. Each one will always have their problems and concerns of her, so it is not about assuming responsibility for this but about being able to be there for the other. This understanding will come from good communication in which they are sincere and respectful of the pain of others. Empathy will also allow you to celebrate each other’s triumphs and understand the different perspectives to build together.
Set limits
Every healthy relationship requires setting limits. No matter how much you love your partner, limits define the responsibility that each person has in the relationship and helps establish communication and space for both.
It is important to respect these differences and not push the limits of others, including emotional limits, physical limits, and any other kind of limits. This requires effort on both sides. If they don’t, they can fall into toxic situations like messy habits, violence, jealousy, broken promises, vices, resentment, and power struggles.
