Legend has it that your partner and you used to spend whole weekends without getting out of bed and you were not sleeping at all.
The relationships of couples have to face periods of passionless emptiness that can have serious consequences for the future of the relationship. That is why we are wondering why the desire disappears as a couple and how we can recover it.
Reasons why desire as a couple fades
It is no longer what it was. Pass the infatuation and you enter a stage of sentimental comfort and sexual reluctance that can greatly harm your future as a couple. But it’s not you, you’re both and the amount of factors that help the passion turn off after a couple of years.
1. Coexistence. Coexistence is possible if you know how. Generally we blame all the problems of couple to the coexistence and it may not be fair, but it is true that now that you live together you do not have so much desire. Why will it be?
2. Stress. You go out to work, you go to the supermarket, you put a washing machine, you call your mother, prepare dinner and, what has the yoga class served you? If you are eating the daily stress and when you stop all you want is to lie on the couch and vegetate until the next day, as for a tumble!
3. Children. When we do not blame the coexistence, we look at the children. Children change your life, of course. But if on the one hand you lose intimacy as a couple, on the other hand you can gain in sexual creativity and take advantage of places and moments that never crossed your mind.
4. Age. This with 25 years did not happen to you, neither do we, but now your head hurts, your neck is broken and contractures do not let you relax. And your couple? He no longer serves the excuse of ‘I swear to you that it has never happened to me before’ because you have witnessed some other downturn.
5. Lack of communication. Does your partner really know what you like in bed? Because if you do not tell him, he will not be able to guess. Good lovers are not born, they are made, with lots of practice and lots of communication so that each one knows what the other likes.
6. Lack of love. There are times when desire vanishes for the simple reason that it has run away with love. There is no love between you, maybe there was before, but not now. And here we can do nothing to recover what was lost.
Tricks to recover the desire as a couple
If you are suffering one of those sexual stages of the couple in which the passion has been thrown out the window, do not worry, that everything has a solution. But first, look at your partner. Have you seen him? It’s there, because sometimes we do not even look at each other.
7. Eat it with kisses. Do not give her a kiss for commitment. Sit in front of your partner, very close the two and begins to kiss. Kisses are the best foreplay for a good sex and you can also stay there, in simple and magical kisses.
8. There is life beyond the bed. Have you thought about changing the stage? Try not to leave sex for when you are in bed and about to sleep because, indeed, are not hours and you are tired. But there are other places to have sex that you will remember from those early times of relationship.
9. The day of fantasies. If you have a day of general cleaning in the house, you can also have the day of fantasies. That day in which you reserve a large gap in the agenda to fulfill one of your sexual fantasies, and the following week, yours. And pull because it touches you.
10. Let’s play. Recover the pleasure of playing with your partner. Playing and pleasure form a team capable of renewing a relationship completely. From introducing erotic toys into your relationships, to proposing proofs to overcome, card games or staging movie scenes.
11. Tell me a story. Let us return to bed for a moment and there, entangled between you and between the sheets, you can read some erotic story that stimulates your imagination and your desires.
12. Sexting. In the era of new technologies you can not miss the opportunity that mobile phones offer. Sexting is one of the best tricks to keep passion as a couple, with those messages that you send to your work and prepare you for a special meeting at the end of the day.
