A study carried out by Professor Richard Weissbourd of Harvard University has left us these commandments to be better parents, recovering old habits but adapting them to new times.
1. Lead by example
It is better to lead by example than boring and tedious lessons. If you want to teach children not to throw trash on the street, for example, then make a constant demonstration of not throwing papers or waste.
2. Spend more time with your children
Parents no longer spend as much time with our children. However, this is a big mistake, the time you do not dedicate to your children you will never recover. Children who grow up with the feeling of absent parents often have affective and emotional deficits in adulthood.
3. Talk to them
Forget the typical “How about at school?” or “What have you eaten today?” These questions do not allow dialogue with the little ones.
Be more interested in knowing their tastes, their friends, what they love, what they hate … This will create a communication link that will extend beyond childhood and will encourage them to share their concerns and problems with you as they go. growing.
4. Teach them how to solve their conflicts s
It is not a matter of giving you clues to arrive at the subtraction result, or guiding you to solve your problem with your little brother.
It is about guiding him to find his own result with questions that lead him to make his decisions, so he will learn to solve his problems. This type of education will also make you more outgoing and communicative.
5. Thank them and acknowledge their achievements.
The best social skills come from assertiveness and good self-esteem. For this, the best thing is to educate in gratitude and recognition of achievements and, for this, we must start with the little ones. Remind him of what he has done well and be grateful when he does something. This will help him to become more self-confident and in turn help him learn the value of gratitude and compassion.
7. Let them become aware of what is happening in the world
Children must be aware of what is happening around us in order to exercise their empathy and compassion and also feel for the first time that they are necessary and that they can do things that improve life: if you are aware of the ‘problems’ in the world that can be fixed, you will realize that she can be important to achieve change.
8. Do not suppress their emotions
It is not bad to get carried away by emotions, but it is not recommended to suppress them completely either. A key to educating a child is teaching him to control his feelings, which will allow him to operate better in times of crisis.
9. Get them to practice kindness and gratitude
Several studies show that people who routinely express their gratitude tend to be more willing to help and are more generous, compassionate, and forgiving; and also healthier and happier! As in all good habits, the important thing is repetition.
10. Educate them in tolerance
If you are a parent who is tolerant towards other ways of thinking and seeing life, it is very likely that your child will too, which will make him / her a highly proactive adult who learns from other people.
3 steps to stop yelling at kids
- Find out first what triggers your anger. Putting your fears, anger and frustrations in them is the main problem. Try to stay calm and speak kindly to your children.
- Do not get carried away by emotions and apply logic.
- Work on your emotions to learn to control yourself.